Stepping Into Your Soft Girl Era: No Man Required.

Put yourself in that era, queen.

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For today's blog post, we're talking about how to enter your soft-girl era with or without a man. If you are chronically online, like me (lol), then you've seen the trend of the girlies entering their soft girl era as soon as they get into relationships. And while we love that for our relationship girlies, I want to express to you that you don't need a relationship to start living in softness, peace, or to embrace your feminine energy. This era is about YOU-embracing yourself and creating a life that feels as good as it looks on the outside. You can be soft, whole, and feel loved without requiring validation from anyone else.

“Don’t wait around for other people to be happy for you. Any happiness you get, you’ve got to make yourself.”

— Alice Walker

Welcome to your soft girl era. The most important thing to remember is that softness does NOT equal weakness. It actually means the opposite. Choosing to enter into your soft girl era is making a conscious decision to lead your life with ease, protecting your peace, and romanticizing your life on YOUR terms. Let this be your sign: to give yourself permission to step into your "soft girl era," you do NOT need a man to start. In a society that expects so much out of women—especially Black women—we owe it to ourselves to enter our "soft girl era." So, embrace your femininity and be vulnerable in a world that demands you to be tough. Your soft girl era is more than just aesthetic though; it goes beyond surface level. It's about choosing softness in your daily life. It is how you choose to speak to yourself, show up for yourself, and who you surround yourself with. To me, it's about embracing love in your life, even if it's just self-love. You deserve everything that life has to offer you, so you should choose the soft girl era NOW—not later, and NOT when only someone sees your worth.

Envisioning Your Future Self

In my experience, stepping into your soft girl era means showing up for yourself in the midst of the chaos in your life. We've all been there, where life feels messy and overwhelming, but what truly defines you is how you choose to respond in those moments. It's choosing to be gentle with yourself when you feel yourself shutting down. It's speaking life into yourself when it is hard to fully believe it. Leading a soft life doesn't mean that hard things just magically go away; it means you have a new outlook on life. You are choosing to move with intention, grace, and compassion. When the weight of the world is on your shoulders, your softness will guide you. It will remind you to pause, reset and keep going. That's true softness; it is built upon strength and growth. 

 

Daily Practices to Embrace Softness

There are so many simple ways to embrace softness every day. Here are a few of my favorite ways.

1.) SET BOUNDARIES

One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned this year is that you have to protect your peace. I never realized the impact of not protecting my peace until my life was complete CHAOS. It wasn’t until I isolated myself and started embracing softness in my life that I realized just how important protecting your peace really is. This will look different for everyone, but just remember: “No” is a complete sentence, and if it costs your peace, it’s TOO expensive.

2.) Only speak kindness to yourself

Whenever you feel yourself self-criticizing, replace it with affirmations. Always remember to be kind to yourself. You are your biggest cheerleader, so never forget that. There is power in the tongue, which is why the way we speak to ourselves is so important.

3.) Romanticize your everyday routine

Do one nice thing for yourself each day, like journaling or taking yourself on a solo date! I love both. It’s my little way of showing myself love.

4.) Dedicate time for yourself

You deserve rest—even when you’re not exhausted. You deserve it, queen. The more you care for yourself, the better you’ll feel. The more natural softness will become in your daily routine.

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Choosing Softness, Choosing Peace

One of the most important things I've realized is that softness does not require validation from anyone but yourself—especially not a man. Now that I have experienced softness in a relationship and out of one, I realize how crucial it is to embrace it for yourself first. Softness doesn't start or end depending on whether you're in a relationship or not. It's a personal choice to show up for yourself and recognize your needs, proving that your worth isn't tied to anyone else.

Choosing softness also creates the space for healing and growth—allowing yourself to be your safe place when you feel overwhelmed. I feel like your twenties is the perfect time to begin this journey. Social media puts so much pressure on young women to find love that we forget the same love we are searching for is inside of us. You are so strong and so loved that softness will come naturally to you when you start to embrace it. Lead your life with gentleness, grace, and compassion for yourself.

In conclusion, remember that your soft girl era isn't just a trendy phase but a lifestyle that will serve as a reminder that you do deserve happiness and softness in all aspects of your life.

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